Comments on: Kate Gosselin, Discipline & Caregivers

By: Liazbeth

Liazbeth — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 02:42:31 +0000

Disciplining that it you don’t have to spanking or afraid the child. A good disciplining is gods word he had to discipline us sometime and that means just simply taking away something that you love are love to do if you don’t have control over. give some change, make good diction.
For example if an adult hitd a child, we call it discipline.If child hits a child, we call it fighting.

By: ShannonGibson1

ShannonGibson1 — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 20:45:04 +0000

Anyone ca nsee that Kate is a great mom who loves here kids, she is doing something right, so why does everyone have to freak out when she swats a kid? No harm came to the kid! If she was hiding something she wouldn’t do it on camera!

By: Deriso

Deriso — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 14:10:37 +0000

It Is a right way to disapline children and a wrong way I believe that some people blow things out of perportion when they see children get spanked the bible says if you spare the rod you spoil the child this is Gods word he had to deciplne us sometime and taht means just simply taking away something that you love are love to do if you don’t have control over something. Children need to be told no sometime you have to set boundaries with children no means no but tell them in a way that they can comprehend it starts with the parents at home I work wit 2 lovely kids for 4 years never had a problem they mind veeery well wahat ever you teach a child they will grow and learn and take it with them for the rest of there life you don’t have to hit to disapline kids use reverse sycology.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 18:46:02 +0000

THIS IS WHAT’S WRONG WITH THE WORLD TODAY, OVERREACTING OVER A SPANKING. KATE DIDN’T KILL HER OR LEAVE BRUISES. A FRIEND OF MINE HAS THE WORST BEHAVED 8 YEAR OLD I HAVE SEEN IN A LONG TIME. SHE TALKS BACK, TELLS HER PARENTS TO SHUT UP AND SPITS ON PEOPLE. I TOLD HER IN MY HOME THAT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE.THAT BEHAVIOR IN MY HOUSE WILL GET YOUR ASS WHIPPED. MY CHILDREN GET SPANKED AS A LAST RESORT. THEY KNOW WHEN I AM AT THAT POINT. KATE DID NOTHING WRONG. SHE HAS 8 CHILDREN UNDER 10 AND THIS IS WHEN DISCIPLINE IS MOST IMPORTANT. TIME OUT DOESN’T WORK FOR ALL KIDS. I AM A TEACHER AND KIDS NOW CAN BE VERY DISRESPECTFUL. SO TO EACH HIS OWN DISCIPLINE AS YOU SEE FIT.

By: Niki_17

Niki_17 — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:37:25 +0000

I think that spanking your own child is alright as long as you don’t do it in anger. If you spank them while you’re angry, it teaches the child to lash out when they’re upset.

By: KatieHa

KatieHa — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 05:12:46 +0000

The problem is, many (definitely not all) parents who “spank” do so out of anger and frustration with the child, and not out of a way to actually teach the child a lesson. Spanking your child because you are angry with them only teaches them that it is ok to hit a person when you are angry, or physically act out on those emotions. If you are going to spank it is necessary to combine in the logical standpoint. The child must understand that they did in fact so something wrong, but also they have to know what it is that they did and why they shouldn’t do it. (Or at least be told why, sometimes you can explain until you’re purple and they still don’t get why pouring dish soap all over the floor is a bad idea.)

I have many friends whose parents have used the “Go to your room I will be there in five minutes to discuss this and give you a spanking” technique who still believe in spanking. And many who had parents who bypassed the logic step and spanked to make themselves feel better. Most of my friends in the latter category had extremely rocky relationships with their parents until adulthood because there was a kind of resentment (I guess) for being “hit” as they have called it, rather than “spanked”.

By: kellybz

kellybz — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 00:22:33 +0000

i dont think a caregiver should ever spank a child and as for kate gosslin I dont blame her for smacking leah on the butt. kate is a wonderful mom and should get a lot of credit for raisinfg 8 kids.

By: rmauer

rmauer — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 22:05:48 +0000

I personally grew up in two homes that were very different. One parent used the spanking tactic and one used a more logical approach by explaining what I did wrong. In the home where I was spanked I acted out more often and worse. In my other home I basically never acted out. Now that I am grown I have more respect for and a closer relationship with the parent that didn’t spank.

Just a thought for parents that spank.

By: lhia

lhia — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:36:24 +0000

I support spanking. Many times telling kids to sit down or have a time out or withholding priveleges doesnt work.

But yes we helpers/caregivers shouldnt ever be the disciline givers.

By: karla5105

karla5105 — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 17:02:18 +0000

I do think the parent holds the right to discipline their children as they see fit, however they will also suffer the consequences of their chosen form of discipline. I do believe there is a fine line between what parents do and what they should impose on their caregiver to do in their absence. Aggressive forms of discipline should be withheld for the parents to follow through with.

It is important to understand WHY the child is misbehaving initially. Are they too busy? Are they not given enough attention? Are they afraid of something? When a parent or caregiver just lashes out without understand why that child is acting out you are teaching a poor lesson to them. Children throw tantrums because they do not know of a more appropriate way to get their feelings across to you. Talking to a child calmly and sorting through the problem will almost always calm down the situation and get you both to a happy place.

By: nancyb792

nancyb792 — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 14:35:01 +0000

I do not believe in spanking a child, I believe in time-out according to age. Let’s say the child is 4 years old, he/she should have a set time-out chair that they must sit quietly in for 4 minutes. If the behavoir happened in public, you must get down on your knees to lower yourself to the childs level and talk to them. If this does not work then you simply take the child home, and explain why it wasn’t proper behavoir and let the child speak also. We have to listen to these children, sometimes they don’t understand what they did nor why it was not proper. I have babysat and been a Nanny and have never ever even thought of spanking someone else’s child. That is the parents job. Not that of a caregiver/nanny nor babysitter.

By: smm2008

smm2008 — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:29:24 +0000

Well this is certainly a fine example of a stressed out mom in need of some help (both with her children and psychologically). It is so sad to see her life displayed for millions to see although, of course, it was her choice.
Besides all that, this is a great article! I think discipline as a nanny/caretaker is one of the most important topics. I think it is also helpful to talk to the parent and see how they would handle the situation as well. It is important to try and mimic (if it is effective) the ways of the parents in order to be more effective.

By: kpatter6

kpatter6 — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 02:49:54 +0000

why do people get so riled up over a parent swating a child on the behind? no, i do not believe it is ever right for the caregiver to spank a child and i always use tactics to make sure and deal properly with tough situations…but a parent has the right…im not sure of the circumstances because i didnt see the show of what kate did, but as the old adage says “spare the rod, spoil the child”

By: BreeBree72

BreeBree72 — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 23:14:19 +0000

I think that is very helpful. Good ideas for babysitting. I will try those things.