Comments on: Temper Tantrum Tips

By: vonir08

vonir08 — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:32:51 +0000

Thanks for these tips! I’m a nanny for a 2 year old boy that just screams at the top of his lungs. It’s so hard to know what he wants but I noticed he’s either hungry, thirsty or sometimes just wants his way. I point to the objects to see if thats what he wants and if it is, he smiles. Then we’re both happy. I will surely come back to this blog for advice. Thanks again!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 16:40:08 +0000

When I was a home visitor/parent educator, we had a child therapist speak to the parents once a year on behavior topics. She explained that trying to reason with or even talk to a child in the middle of a tantrum is not effective. They are in an emotional upheaval/rage and adrenaline is taking over. She told us to say as soon as you feel better we can play, eat, fill-in the blank. Then stay nearby but don’t give attention to the tantrum. Once they begin to calm on their own you can say you are glad they are feeling better. Are you ready to fill-in-the-blank. Children also have tantrums when you remove them from doing something dangerous or basically any time you might not want them to do exactly what they are doing. They do have to learn that whatever they are doing is not safe or acceptable and you will stop it.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 23:01:20 +0000

If i feel the child is hungry or tired I will simply say to the child, “I see that you are tired (or hungry) when you are ready for me to help you, let me know” usually the child will cry a little more and then calm themselves down. I don’t praise the child for calming down per say but I may make a comment like, “oh, now are you feeling better, let’s go get ready for bed, or lets go get some dinner” If the child is throwing a tantrum that is just a “I wanna get my way” tantrum I just make sure that they are safe, (not going to hurt themselves) and I will just let them go. If they are screaming I may say “that hurts my ears so I am going to walk away until you are finished” usually the child gets tired of the tantrum pretty quickly and then we can move on to doing something fun.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 22:03:58 +0000

Those are 2 great tips. I think teaching sign language to babies is so smart. If the baby or child is too frustrated to find the words or too young this seems like it would really help out. I personally have used distraction and staying calm, being present but, if the child is old enough, using this time to clean up the toys . As I’m doing so, I calmly explain what i’m doing. I also say that when “Your able” I would love help and advise on the best place to put certain toys. I think that when they’re able to think clearly, this gives them a feeling of impowerment and control. At this stage of their life they have so little command over their life and environment.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:34:50 +0000

I tend to look at the child and say are those crocodile tears? How can I help? Show me what I can do? (Often times I just think the thought in my mind first as I assess the problem) Hmmm, I suggest we look at this toy over here it looks lonely and needs somebody to play with it. Also I utilize basic sign language with the children such as milk, eat, change me, and ‘all finished’ (if they grow impatient on the changing table). Sign language enables a 6 month old to be talking by the time he is 12 months of age.

By: net2merc

net2merc — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:24:27 +0000

Excellent Temper Tantrum Tips!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:28:33 +0000

Thats a really good tactic ninmaria89. I will try those for sure. My daughter is only 10 months and she has tantrums already. Well she has been having them for a few months now. Everyone says she is acting out but I just think she is still too young to know how to express herself alot of the time and she acts out because of it.

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By: ninamaria89

ninamaria89 — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 04:15:04 +0000

One of the successful tips that I have found when a child is throwing a temper tantrum “sorry I don’t speak feet pounding but let me try to guess what your saying and then guess silly things.” If the kid is not too far gone and you can catch it early on this humor often works. Otherwise if the child is pretty much enthralled in their temper tantrum in a calm voice I say well Im gonna go play with these cars over here so whenever you are ready I would love to have you come play with me. Then once they come over I ask them to voice their opinions while playing so they still feel like they get their point across but in a way I can understand and then address their needs.