Tori Spelling Talks Child Care
Cookie Magazine recently conducted an interview with actress, author, reality star and mom Tori Spelling in which she talks all about her family, her kids and the people in their lives — including their caregiver.
FROM COOKIE:
Now 36, with her own 2-year-old son, Liam, and 1-year-old daughter, Stella, Spelling admits “there are a lot of variables to normal, especially in Hollywood,” which is what inspired her to write her second memoir, Mommywood (Simon Spotlight Entertainment). Admittedly, her kids have uniquely showbiz-y lives, and not simply because Mom and Dad—actor Dean McDermott—have been paparazzi bait since 2005, when they ended their previous marriages to be together. Their house is rigged for filming Oxygen’s Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood. And sometimes Spelling, who also designs a kids’ clothing line, simply can’t help herself and replicates a few fairy-tale aspects of her own girlhood.
On the mother-nanny relationship
“I never understood being competitive with a nanny. If you have someone you trust and who loves your kids, then what an amazing thing you’ve done for them.”
On her children’s caregiver
“My kids have Patsy, who is a baby nurse to them and like a mother figure to me. Stella was an unplanned pregnancy, and I think it happened so I could keep Patsy longer. ”
On her relationship with her own nanny
(The nanny passed away when Tori was in her early 30s)
“I am very sad Nanny and my dad never got to meet my kids. I have this little bear that was Nanny’s, and I always bring it when I fly. I recently showed it to Liam and explained that the bear is like a grandparent who looks out for us. He grabbed it and kissed it.”
On her relationship with her children
“Stella is a total mama’s girl. My biggest fear in life was having a girl—how was I going to handle a girl [considering my relationship with my mother]? But for all my fears, without my even trying, Stella wants her mama. When she is in Dean’s arms, she lunges for me the way Liam did for him.”
Read the entire interview on www.cookiemag.com.
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May 18th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
I agree w/ Tori on having a nanny who you TRUST and who LOVES your children being a good thing. I have been a nanny for many families, 2 of which I started with when their child was a newborn. These 2 families and I have an ongoing relationship even though I no longer work for them. One child is now 28yrs old and she and I still talk at least once a week even though she lives in another state. The other child is 8yrs old and I am invited to every birthday and still receive Christmas and birthday gifts from the family. I also still care for her on occasion when she is out of school, etc. I do childcare because I love children and give them my all when they are in my care. My main responsibility with these children was their care which allowed me to give them my undivided attention. I was not expected to do housework run errands, do family laundry,etc. As a result the 8yr old reads at an 8th grade level and was potty trained by the age of 2yrs. Her parents and grandparents constantly thank me for the care she received. The 28yr old sends me mother’s day, birthday and Christmas cards every year and comes to visit. The mothers never felt threatened because they knew I Loved their child.
May 19th, 2009 at 4:59 pm
Actor? What had Dean acted in ? I am still troubled that this man “got out” ( his words ) of his adoption of his daughter Lola. I think it is very cowardly.
Tori cheated on her husband with Dean.
Dean cheated not only on his wife of 12yrs , but also on their family(their kids Jack and Lola).
May 19th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
ihia, what does that have to do with anything?
May 20th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
Tori is a lot of fun to watch on her shows because she tries too hard to be a “hollywood” who is not acting “hollywood”. it is funny to watch her try so hard to be Normal. (Take it from a mom who does not have a nanny, sitter, or anyone.) Her life and her kids’ lives are not normal.