Some version of that question has floated through the mind of every parent in 2020. We threw A LOT at them this year. From political strife to civil unrest to a global pandemic. This generation of little ones is living through multiple once-in-a-lifetime moments simultaneously and they haven’t even hit puberty.
As a new year starts, there’s a lot of worry among parents about how their kids are holding up. Are they falling behind in school because of remote learning? Are they getting too much free time? How much anxiety will stick with them? Will they forget how to play with friends? Will they have attachment issues after so much time being isolated together? The list of worries can easily build up.
For any parent struggling with the swirl of worrying questions, below is a quick checklist of things you can use to gauge if your kids are going to be ok.
#1 – Do they feel loved?
#2 – Do they feel safe?
#3 – Do they feel supported?
If they answer yes, to any/all of these, the kids are going to be alright.
We’re living through truly unprecedented times. Moving into a new year, we need to cut ourselves a massive break. We’ve made it this far and there seems to be light at the end of the tunnel. We need to remember we are still in a crisis. We can not measure things by what we were accomplishing this time last year. Those rules have been thrown out the window. We are still taking it day by day and piece by piece. So…
- If they miss a remote learning session, it’s ok.
- If they spend multiple hours with screens in a single day, it’s ok.
- If no one changes out of PJs all day, it’s ok.
- If they don’t have beautiful home-cooked meals, it’s ok.
- If the laundry goes an extra day or two without being folded, it’s ok.
- If you oversleep, it’s ok,
- If the grades are less than stellar, it’s ok.
- If bath times are missed, it’s ok.
- If you need to cry, it’s ok.
- If they need to cry, it’s ok.
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by the weight of it all and unsure if you’re keeping it together. Focus on the 3 most important things to your kids being ok – love, safety, and support. Everything else is just extra. Ground yourself in keeping it simple and let the stress lessen.