I have a great Pyrenees and Cat so you have to be comfortable with pets. My twins are 9 years old and Highly autistic and one has a Gtube. My youngest is also Autistic but not as much as his brothers. They are all unfortunately still in diapers, though we do work on this with them daily, you will have to change diapers. My wife has been a stay at home mom with 9 years but recently with the economy was forced back to work. She will be right down the road if anything happens and you would work no EARLIER than 3pm with the kids going to bed at 8 pm. We would only need you on nights our shifts collide(I work at 4pm and she works my off days,so only when I have Ot)